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Friday, July 26, 2019

A Homemaker's View Of Life

It's 12.30 pm. The kid is in his school, I am done with the cooking chores for the day and now I am sitting in my favourite nook of my room, beside the window with my much-loved laptop.

When I think about my life as a working woman, it seems unreal. And yet it was true, it did exist. Once upon a time, I was a working woman and often thought that I would never survive a week as a homemaker. My supposedly-'impenetrable' logic? That someone who has been working always will find it difficult to settle down as a homemaker.

The only lesson that I could learn from life, is that, it will present the very same circumstance / situation to you that you always dread. As my husband got a new job in a new city, and my two-year old kid suddenly found himself in a new place minus his usual comfort-crowd (my parents, my sisters and cousins and friends who dotted and pampered him like anything), I felt the need to take a short break from working and help the kid to settle down. As the months at the new place passed by, I found myself fully immersed in my chores as a homemaker, and slowly the idea of working again left my mind as I embraced my new role with, to be frank, contentment and relief. That I wouldn't be subject to office politics again, gave a different kind of happiness and satisfaction.

And today? I am totally set in my profile, in my role. Although, I have to say, there is not much of a social life for me. I do have acquaintances here, but we don't hang out together as I used to hang out with my friends. The outings are very less, unless you count dropping the kid to school and picking him up and grocery shopping. And yet, I have my moments of contentment and wonder.

When I wake up to a morning, the silence of which is broken only by the sweet chirping of birds, it gives me happiness. For an hour, the house is silent and I revel in the silence, I soak it in, I hungrily devour it. It is the most peaceful time of the day for me and is a good motivation for me to wake up early.

After dropping my kid to school, I usually head out to the local super-market to buy some groceries. And there is a quiet contentment in shopping alone, you know. It is fun to look at the displayed items in the super market - biscuits, snacks, coffee etc, even if you don't have to buy them.

After completing all my chores, when I snuggle up on the chair in the nook of my room, beside the window, there is a cozy feeling of comfort and solace. And now-a-days, a pigeon comes and perches outside the window at the same time as me. Sometimes I find it looking at me curiously. Most of the times, it just perches contentedly sending one or two curious looks towards me. We sit in a comfortable silence, I with my book or laptop, and the pigeon with - whatever its hobbies are.

And on weekends, when the house is full, I revel in the company of everyone, in the joy of having a full house. I leave for an early-morning walk with my husband and we treasure this hour of walking through a beautiful, tree-lined road, enjoying the crisp morning air and updating each other about the happenings of the week. Weekend is not complete until we purchase the newspaper. On Sundays, the newspaper comes with additional supplement of spiritual articles and another supplement that is basically a knowledge-book. As a reader, I treasure these supplements and preserve them carefully, to be read on Mondays when I would get my 'Me-Time'.

Life is all about balance. I enjoyed my stint as a working-woman (although, the phase did have its terrible lows but that's content for another blog) and now I enjoy my profile as a homemaker. The secret is to find happiness in the small things in life, and we will see that life will never fail to give us contentment and happiness.

Thursday, July 25, 2019

The Quest For Inner Peace

There comes a time in the life of people when they suddenly see their life for its lack of originality and reality and they start questioning about What Lies In Store Ahead.

My time came in the month of January 2019. There was this intense need to find inner peace, to find my true purpose in life and most importantly, to maintain a state of equilibrium through all kinds of situations.

I took a much-needed break from social media, de-activating my Whatsapp account and uninstalling my Facebook from my mobile.

Being a voracious reader, my first resort was - reading. And not just reading, but reading something that would help me in my quest. I have always been a fan of fiction and light-hearted rom-coms (Romantic Comedies). It was time to change my preferred genre.

There is this saying, you know, that when you really want something, the Universe will conspire in your favor! The concept of Stoicism (a belief-system that basically advocates leading a reason-based and logic-based life and maintaining inner calm in any situation) and Mindfulness (the art of being in a perpetually meditative state - i.e. doing everything with awareness, focus and concentration) kept coming to my attention through books, newspapers and suggestions from friends. I read the likes of Marcus Aurelius, Thich Nhat Hahn and Emerson and got lost in a world of philosophical quotes and gems that I know I will treasure forever. Along with reading these priceless authors, I started making notes of the points that I wanted to remember always. And thus started a wonderful healing process of reading and writing that gave me immense peace and helped me to calm down.

That was not all that I did.

It was time to start my Yoga sessions again. I had stopped doing Yoga exercises for almost six months or so. I started them with a renewed vigor and made breathing-exercises and meditation, an important part of my daily routine. Mostly I remembered to practice Mindfulness every moment. While cooking, sweeping, washing the dishes, I tried to focus only on the task at hand and empty mind of all distractions. Sometimes, I succeeded. Many a times, I failed. But I didn't give up practicing Mindfulness.

After two months of living in a solitary state, cut-off from the social world, I felt the first pangs of loneliness and activated my Whatsapp account. The same old awesome friends greeted me, and I was happy to be a part of the world again. But this time, I ensured that I didn't become feverishly addicted to Whatsapp or Facebook. 

After doing all these, the question arises - Have I found my inner peace? The answer is both Yes and No.

Because I realized and learnt that the quest for inner peace doesn't lead you to any promised destination, it is rather the journey that prepares and teaches you what you need to know! Does Inner Peace exist? Yes. Can you stay there? No! You have to keep looking for it, doing the things that lead you to it. It is not the station, it is the train!

When I look back, the happiest and most peaceful moments have been in my quest, while I was reading, or doing some breathing exercises, or meditating. It's while doing all these that I connected to my true self and found my place of calm. I still have my off-days that disturb my equilibrium, but I now know that I can go back to my peaceful centre anytime, by doing the activities that help me to stay calm and in equilibrium.

Its a continuous journey, this quest for peace. So for all those who are seekers in this path, I want to say - Enjoy the journey, my friends! For it is in the journey that you will find what you seek for. The secret is in finding what you love to do and what appeals to you.

As for me, I am still a seeker, and as the quote goes - While I am not where I exactly wanted to be, I am grateful for where I am, and excited about where I am going!